Letter
to my Thirteen-Year-Old Granddaughter
Dear Emily,
Happy Birthday. You are
now officially a teenager. Strap on your seat belt because you are about to
take a ride full of ups and downs, twists and turns and lots of breathtaking
adventures. You have so many first-time-in-life events to look forward to and
important decisions to make during this time of your life. It is exciting to
grow up and become a young woman but it can also be hard and confusing at
times.
Here are a few things
to remember from your grandma that loves you very much.
YOU ARE ENOUGH
Don’t believe anyone
that tells you are not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough - or anything
enough. You are a daughter of the God; you have infinite potential. But . . . you
don’t have to be perfect today. Practice makes progress not perfect. People or media outlets that make you feel
like you’ll never be good enough are lying to you. You have always been enough
and you always will.
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
Most people believe
that beauty is the way we appear to others. Beauty is the way you appear to God
who does not look on the outward appearance - but on your heart. How you treat
yourself and other people is what makes you beautiful – not the way you dress, do
your hair or apply make-up. God gave you a magnificent body that allows you to
see, hear, think and move. Be grateful every single day for the unique body you
have.
YOU ARE SMART
During our school years
we often compare ourselves to the other students around us. In truth, how we
compare to others doesn’t matter in the eternal scheme of things. If you seek
after learning, you are smart. Everyone has areas of study that come easily and
others that are more challenging. It doesn’t matter how long it takes you to
figure something out. What matters is that you are willing to keep trying and
never give up.
YOU ARE STRONG
Lots of people think
you are strong if you never feel fear. The greatest strength is evident when we
choose to move forward when we are afraid. Feelings are meant to be felt – all of them. There is no right or wrong
feeling. There will be days when you feel scared, incompetent or want to give
up. It is normal to feel those emotions. After you feel what you feel, make a careful
decision about what you are going to do with those feelings. When you choose to
do what you believe in your heart is the right, you can feel peace of mind.
YOU ARE HARD WORKING
Some people think that
famous, rich or powerful people are the most important people in the world. The
most important people are actually kind, respectful, curious, and hard working.
The ability to work hard and never give up will get you through your hardest
days.
YOU ARE FUN
Sing, dance, laugh and
embrace being your unique self. Life can change in an instant so don’t wait for
a better time to enjoy life. Stop worrying about what others think of you.
Actually, they are not thinking about you; they are focused on themselves.
YOU CAN SAY NO
Never be afraid to say
no to anyone. When you say no to what is not right for you, you actually say
yes to what is better for you. There will always be more demands for your time
than you can give without depleting your well. You have nothing to give if your
well is dry. Spend as much time filling your well as you do drawing from it.
Your worth and dignity is constant and never changing. No one can take those
away from you.
YOU ARE LOVED
No
person will ever love you the way God loves you. When you feel the love of God
you are not desperate for the love of other people. You cannot control how many
people love you but you can control how many people you love.
During your teenage years, you will be tempted to dress and behave in fake ways to attract
boys. You do not want the attention of a boy who is attracted to false
pretenses and appearances. The boy who loves and respects you for who you are
is the kind of man you will eventually want to marry.
I
love you Emily. I see your strength and your beauty. I feel your courage and
dignity. I know that you have the power to create a meaningful life by the
choices you make today. I am your one-woman biggest fan club. I will always
care about you and pray for you. You are precious to me.
Love,
Grandma
Baadsgaard