Telling Caleb's Story

The following is a newspaper column I wrote for my precious grandson.

In my family we have a secret code to communicate our love for each other when we are out in public. We wink. When one of us is about to perform or speak, we look for a family member’s face in the crowd. Then we wink at each other. Closing one eye and winking is our secret code for saying, “I love you. You can do it. You’re wonderful.”
Almost five years ago, my grandson Caleb was born into our family. He must have known before birth that he would never be able to speak to us because he was born with one eyelid permanently closed. So, he is always “winking” at us, always communicating, “I love you. You can do it. You’re wonderful.”
Caleb has one eye lid permanently closed because he is missing one of his eyes . . . and he is also missing his brain. All the doctors said he would die soon after birth. They were wrong. He is a medical miracle. The doctors say he can’t see, hear, speak, think or move. Those who know and love Caleb understand he has his own unique way of experiencing the world and communicating his love to those around him.
After Caleb was born the hospice people told us to buy a burial plot and continually warned us of his imminent death. We soon learned you can not live well in a state of fear and sadness. We decided we could spend Caleb’s entire life anxious and scared he might die at any moment, or we could celebrate each day we were blessed to have him with us. In the beginning, my daughter April celebrated Caleb’s birthday every week instead of every year with balloons and cupcakes because we simply did not know how long we would have him with us. We stopped the cupcakes after we gained ten pounds, but the celebrating goes on.
We all prayed for a miracle when we first learned about Caleb’s condition. We got one. Caleb’s birth, life and mission have had a deep and lasting impact on our lives. His spirit, eternal identity and most of all the loving, individual relationship he has with each of us is truly a miracle. Because of Caleb we know that each of us has a divine purpose and that the physical body is a sacred gift we should never take for granted. We better understand the worth of a soul and the resiliency of the human spirit.
Caleb’s older brother Matthew said, “Grandma. The doctors said Caleb was going to die, but he didn’t. That’s the first miracle I ever saw!”
Sometimes the only intervention that can get Caleb’s heart rate up is when his older brothers Josh and Matty crawl in his crib, hug him and sing, “I am a Child of God.”

Caleb has a mission. His life matters.

People in my daughter's neighborhood often knock on her door and ask if they can spend time with Caleb. Why? Being with Caleb gives people peace and joy. Every time I'm with Caleb I feel a little closer to heaven. In a busy world Caleb invites us to slow down and listen. Caleb communicates spirit to spirit. You can't hear what he has to say if you don't stop and listen with your heart.

Even though Caleb has never been able to utter a single word he has taught everyone who knows and loves him – all the secrets of a rich and meaningful life.


Judy and KC said...

That was so beautiful! It brought tears to my eyes. What a lucky little boy to be born into such an incredible family like yours who have so much love and understanding to give. Thank you for sharing with all of us.

The Foulgers said...

That was such a sweet story. Your family is truely blessed to have Caleb in your lives. Thanks for sharing!:)